Being on a diet is hard, but so is being fat. Just think how you felt at your heaviest. I felt disgusting, was sick all the time, waking up choking on acid, always feeling bloated. Its not worth it, not for me anyway.
Life is about decisions. You can either decide to stay fat or stay on plan. Every waking moment of the day you have to make the decision to just do it, even when you dont feel like it. Good luck, I know you can do this...
Do you ever find a few moments of pleasure when you're on-plan? Focus on those times to help tip the scale back in favor of staying on plan. Spend some time thinking of the positives of being on-plan. Can you tell us about those times?.
I'm guessing the pleasure you're talking about is eating high-carb/high-fat/sugary/salty foods? Because those foods actually do release pleasurable chemicals in your brain. And every time you take a bite of them you're reinforcing the craving cycle. Especially if you're sensitive to those types of foods. Heck, all humans are designed to seek those foods!.
I saw someone on here mention to imagine something you're considering eating in a negative way... such as picturing crunching through the shell of an M&M to be like biting a bug. LOL!! Maybe visualizing like this could help you starting being ON PLAN as being pleasurable...
I am sorry that you are having such difficulty! Please forgive me if I am mis-reading your post, but maybe you are a little depressed? If that is the case you may be craving the serotonin rush from eating the wrong foods. It may be something to consider..
Ultimately it has to be your choice to make the changes-this is a challenging plan and if you are not in the right frame of mind, it will be a struggle. But remember that the wrong foods don't "find their way" into your mouth - you put them there, so you are in control of what goes in your mouth..
I have not gone through what you are, but I do have fleeting moments where I think it would be easier to eat what my family eats, and there are a million excuses I could find to go off-plan. I overcome it by remembering that only I am in control of my choices, and I choose my desire to be a healthy weight over the fleeting pleasure of eating something inappropriate. You have to make the choice-and if you really want to, you can do it! Just keep coming here - for me it helps reading about how others overcome temptation and the challenge, and how happy they feel when they have success..
You can do it!..
I highly suggest you read Dr Andersen's Habits of Health book and do his workbook.
Do you have a strong enough WHY?.
Do you focus on the end result?.
You you have have support?.
Diets don't work and you need to get out of the yoyo cycle.
There is so much help here I hope you can make it work for you..
You are so worth it...
I highly recommend counseling-I myself went through counseling to work on the issues that were causing me to eat. Medifast doesn't solve that-it just gives you the tools to lose the weight. I think losing weight is not about motivation but is about choosing to make the choice to lose weight.
This is hard-huge hugs!!..
I've had this same mental struggle. I haven't been feeling well the past couple of week- tired, hungry, dizzy, etc. and have had a massive internal struggle to go off plan. I'm not sure what keeps me going? Stubborn pride? Will? Determination? Not wanting to go back to feeling like I'm in a sugar induced coma all the time? I agree, maybe talking with someone would be helpful? Or figuring out what your ultimate goal is with Medifast? Or writing down small goals that can get you through the day? Praying you find what will keep you going. I think we've all been there to some extent...
What keeps me going is thinking about the cost of actually screwing with the plan and getting off ketosis. Aside from that, I'm feeling better than I've felt in a couple years. I lost 86 lbs on WW and then decided to screw with that plan and ended up gaining 30 back. I hated the way I was feeling, my clothes didn't fit anymore and I had to buy new. I too often asked myself why do I sabotage a good thing? If I had the answer to that, I'd never be overweight. I'm sure it has something to do with my background, but I may never know, I can only surmise.
You have to be in the right frame of mind. If you aren't, it won't work. Keep busy! And by the way, I hate the word diet!!! It's a lifestyle change in my book...
When all is going well on our reduction, all is going well. However, when we start to lose motivation, lose our reduction mojo, just want nothing to do with it, that is when we need to dig deep. Dig deep, deep, deep and get oneself back to reduction program. Get that motivation to lose back. Dig deep for that reduction mojo. It is in there somewhere.
We all really want this, we just need to remind ourself of this from time to time..
I have a reduction pattern: Lose, feel great, more clothes fit, diet fatigue, stop reduction, gain. And it all starts over again. Not this time. I am going to FIGHT to keep going and get under 200!.
Come on...........keep going...........you can do this. You really do want to lose weight or you would not have written this post!.
Everyone here has given great advice and suggestions. We all have those days when we want to quit, so hang in there! I agree that you have to make a decision about what you want to do...do you want to stay on plan and give it your best 100%, or do you want to stay off plan and maybe do it 50%, 25%, or 0%? The way I see it, the first option (staying on plan) is difficult at first, but the rewards are so worth it. If you aren't on plan, then what is your reward? More weight? Guilty feelings? Negative self-image? There is no positive. It is a lifestyle change, and whether you do Medifast or not isn't really the big question; it's whether or not you want to really make those changes and commit to changing your eating habits. I wish you the best!..
Maybe you are sabotaging yourself because deep down you don't think you are worth it? Many of us struggle with low self esteem and I know that when I am in that mode, it's the side of me that doesn't think I'm worth it. Don't be so hard on yourself, keep fighting and have faith in yourself. You CAN do this...
Being overweight is a miserable, stressful way to live. Is that REALLY your choice?..
Ewww! That tip is so gross!.. but very helpful. I'll have to try that, thanks..
Excellent post and so true! Think of this as you would a job and/or house work. Most of us don't feel like doing either most days, but we know they have to be done whether we want to or not. It's hard, but so are many things in life we are not used to doing. But the payoff is sooooo worth it!..
LOL! Actually though, to eradicate fast food cravings read a book like Fast Food Nation... you'll be so grossed out you'll never eat fast food again. (Or watch the movie... the visuals are much more disturbing!)..
Hang in there Buddy...If you have a moment of off plan don"t beat yourself up just start again from that moment and move on the cravings will stop if you give the plan a chance.We have all been there and I agree with "diet" don't look at it as a diet it's a change in eating, that when you get to where you want to be you can start to add some of those foods once in a while but you will feel so good that they probably won't taste good cuz being thinner and healthy is def a better feelin then being fat.....One day at a time don't look to far ahead except for the image of how you WILL be....
I am so glad I stumbled across this thread. Because I am in the same boat. There has been such good advice given here and some reality checks. I may come here daily just to remind myself.....do I really want to be overweight? thanks..
What if this makes me want to eat bugs? Do spiders have carbs?..
My motivation to stay on program always comes at the end of the day - when I look back and feel such a sense of accomplishment for staying ON PROGRAM! I crave that feeling of pride when I'm going to bed....... I look at myself in the mirror and think! Good job, girl! Its a "feel good" thing for me.
No cookie or sandwich or gooey dessert can give me that same "feel good" rush. I go through the day and stay on program so at the end of that day....... AWWW - there it is! Success!.
Find your "feel good" rush......... and then crave it everyday!..
ROFL! Actually some people like bugs.
The only info I could find on spiders was this:.
VERY LARGE SPIDERS (Important: REMOVE FANGS!!!).
Nutrition Facts Serv. Size 100 grams.
Total Fat 10 g.
Carb. 0 g.
Protein 63 g.
And here's a link to a nutrition table for several types of bugs:.
Overall bugs are very high in protein, and sometimes have a lot of fat. But very low carbs!! Especially the dung beetle.
Dung Beetle .
Protein: 17.2 g.
Fat: 4.3 g.
Carbs: .2 g.
So... munch all you want... they'll make more!!! *shudders*..
WOW guys, thanks. I was afraid to post what I was feeling here because I don't like to burden others or make people think I'm a loser but I'm so glad I did. It's humbling to admit you're struggling but if everyone who struggled did that maybe these plans would have a higher success rate. I really like the suggestion of seeing a therapist, because there are probably some deep seated issues that cause me to sabotage myself, not to mention the anti-depressant effect that fat and carbs give me. I need to find new ways to feel good, because whether I'm on a "plan" or not I'm miserable except for the high I get when eating off-plan foods. I want to be thin, I feel better when I'm thin, and I do deserve it! I'm going to start taking this one-day-at-a-time and stop feeling fear about not being able to succeed in the long run. THANKS GUYS!!!!!.
((((((((((((BIG HUGS TO ALL OF YOU)))))))))))))..
Are you exercising? 3 weeks Before I started MF, I had already started exercising 6 days a week. It's too hard to work on too many habits at once. Since I already started the habit of exercise, I felt a lot better with more energy. This has made being on Medifast and exercising a lot better. Even though I always feel hungry! But at least I feel good. No bloating.
Try to work on one habit at a time so you don't get overwhelmed. It's all about commitment. It's never easy. There are moments when it is easy, and moments when it is hard. The only way to get through the hard times is to have a firm commitment.
Have a plan...
Just a suggestion (since it sounds like you need endorphins) try the couch25k running plan. Go to coolrunnings.com and it tells you all about it. It is a slow, comfortable walk/jog program. It gets you moving, may help your motivation and the endorphin release will help your mood. I started the program in April 2009 and (wogged) walk/jogged my forst 1/2 marathonin March 2010 at the age of 48 and at 245 lbs! That motivated me to get back on Medifast cuz I really want to get healthy and be a wogger for life. It changed my life and you never know- you may decide you like to "run". Good luck!.
Oh yeah and my other motivation to stay 100% OP?? M-O-N-E-Y!! LOL I cant afford to go off plan...
A girlfriend of mine just started that program and loves it.I'm a P90x girl (on break of course) but am thinking of downloading that as well to get outside with my dog.....
Being on a diet of course is hard..but being OBESE is even harder and I choose to stay 100% on the this diet and I'm sure you can too! It can be hard at times too, and I have to deal with it all the time..but you can do it...one day at a time!..
Several people have suggested The Beck Diet Solution and I heartily endorse it as well. It's not a diet but a way to make whatever diet you choose work for you. I was definitely in a "the honeymoon is over slump" and wanting to quit a week ago and the book worked some magic on me. I even got it at the library. Good luck!..
You know, some days all I have is quiet resignation and a lofty goal of climbing Mt. Fuji. Some days I don't want to do this; some days I want to quit. But you see, there is a mountain in my future, and I am going to climb it, so I need to press on. We don't always have to love it, just have to do it. I remind myself of this in moments of struggle, and it helps.
Fuji in my wallet and anytime I am tempted to make poor food choices, I pull out the picture and meditate on it, reminding myself that I am going to see the sunrise over Japan from the top of that mountain. It keeps me motivated. I suggest finding some lofty, tangible goals that are important to you to keep yourself motivated as well...
Wow... I wish I could be as strong as you.. I have been off program for awhile and hating that I can't seem to get with it again. My daughter got married in september and from the week before until now I"ve been watching what I eat but not doing a very good job. I have lost 24 pounds so far but would like to lose another 15 or 20. I'll use your post to inspire me! Thanks!.
I'm sure you know this, but I wanted to add that the "high" you get from carbs/sugars/junk food also creates the "low" that drives your need for them. I can tell you this is absolutely true, from personal experience.
If you can just set a mini-goal for yourself to stick it out on program for 4 days, your body's cravings will stop fighting so hard against you. Then all you'll have to deal with is your mental cravings. And there has been some awesome advice about dealing with the mental cravings.
It really is amazing how fast the physical cravings disappear once you're really in Ketosis.
You can do this!.
One mini-goal at a time:.
First mini-goal...get into ketosis.
Second mini-goal, 3 more days..That's one week down!!!.
Then, seeing the consistent weight loss when you stick on plan is amazing motivation to STAY on plan!!.
Whimsicat - Great advice.
One thing that helped me stay OP was to focus on what I was gaining - energy, smaller body, etc rather than what I was giving up (i.e. the food highs)..
I also kept telling myself - Don't think about it. Just do it..
If losing weight was easy, no one would be fat. Love yourself, forgive yourself, forget the past, and look forward to all the wonderful things in your future that you will have if you stay OP...
AMEN to this!.
And Thank You for posting the truth!.
Got to have the will and committment it takes to do it.
We all fall once in awhile but get the He** back up!.
You are worth it!..
Withdrawal is never fun. And studies have shown that eating refined carbs has the same effect on the brain as heroin. So, we are all addicts having to get through those "shakes" with "shakes (MF)" so to speak.
There ARE days you will be engaged in self-defeatist thoughts. It is your body's way of trying to get you back to your carb habit. I had to muscle through those days. It does get better, a LITTLE. But life is hard, dieting is hard, being fat is hard. Choose your hard...
Thank you for this comment! It has really struck a cord with me, especially since I did great yesterday until later in the day when it all fell apart and I am back today to do it right and reduce! Thank you for this comment!.
Happy Melting All!.